Q. Me and my wife are trying to have intercourse but unable to. Any advice?
Hello doctor,
- I am a 29 year old male. My height is 5'9" and I weigh 95 kg.
- I got married in January 2014. My wife is 2 years younger than me. She comes from a very simple family and she has had no relationship before marriage.
- I am the first guy in her life. She is also the first woman in my life and both of us have never had physical relationship ever before.
- Now since January 2014, we are trying to have intercourse but unable to.
- We are wanting to have a baby now, but are really worried with the situation. My wife is very shy and does not know much about sex.
- I masturbate every day in the morning before bath on my bed with the stomach position.
- I have never masturbated with tool in hand position and I have even tried but I am not able to. I cannot ejaculate in that manner.
- The moment I lay down on stomach, I ejaculate in less than 20 seconds. I am very worried.
- My masturbation has become even more regular since I am unable to have sex with my wife.
- Also my wife is very sensitive when I touch her vagina.
- Recently she has started enjoying fingering but she resists a lot if I do it with two fingers.
- I wonder how I will ever penetrate her with such small space.
- Also we tried penetration a lot of times but the moment I come close to her I lose erection.
- We are very frustrated and are dying to have a baby.
- I am very uncomfortable with my foreskin rolled down.
- I know for penetration the head of the penis needs to be inserted but the head is very very sensitive and that is why I prefer masturbating in laying on stomach position.
Please help us. We want to have a baby now and before that we want to be sexually happy.
Hi,
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- You can apply lignocaine gel 2% (lox 2%) on your two fingers after wearing a condom on your fingers, and then try to enter the fingers into her vagina gradually and keep them inside for 10- 15 minutes.
- After a few days start entering 3 fingers in the same way.
- When her vaginal opening becomes dilated, then start entering penis after applying gel on your penis too.
- This gel will help combating vaginal dryness and will help you to enter your penis easily.
- You can use tablet Tadacip 10 mg (Tadalafil) , 40 minutes before sexual intercourse. It will help you in erection initiation and maintenance, for initial few intercourses.
- Do not worry. It is a very common problem among those who start having sex for the first time.
- Before starting sexual intercourse, try to relax yourself, take deep breath 20 times and then start it with foreplay (at least 15 minutes).
- It will help your partner in arousal, then her vaginal will become lubricated and she will not feel pain.
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