How do I handle the situation when my wife does not like my family members?
Hello doctor,
I got married seven years ago. I have been facing issues with my wife for five years. My wife does not want to keep a relationship with my sister and my parents. We have one child also. Since, every time, I am becoming like a sandwich between my parents and wife. I have decided to stay separately with my wife and son for some time to see the effect. My wife never accepts her fault and always thinks that whatever happens is because of others. She scolds my sister and my parents badly. I cannot hear that. The problem is that my wife does not listen to anyone and does not accept her fault in any quarrel. Also, she does not forget and forgive people, always bringing past memories into the current discussion. Also, she believes that whatever she is speaking, whether good or bad, is because of the behavior of others around her. So, it is not her fault anytime. Even after living separately with her, we fight on petty matters. My wife does not want to discuss any fights between us because she always thinks that if she discusses things, I will point out her mistakes, and she considers it as blame and permanently shuts down. I can not share my feelings with her even if she is my life partner. I love her very much and cannot see her in trouble, but I love myself also, and every time I cannot say sorry for petty things because my wife never realizes her side of mistakes. There is no understanding between us, and because of that, issues keep on arising. I feel stressed whenever I fight with my wife. She does not generally behave like this, and whenever I try to discuss it with her, she shuts down. I feel bad as my wife does not keep any relationship with my sister or my parents. Kindly give me some tips based on my situation.
22 Jan 2024 - 1 min read
What should be done to stop falling asleep frequently?
Hello doctor,
I always feel sleepy despite sleeping for eight to nine hours. I cannot concentrate on my studies, and my performance has been affected. My grades have gone down, and I am scared that my grades will decline my career. What should I do to stop myself from falling asleep frequently?
09 Jan 2024 - 1 min read
How can a married man deal with his attraction towards another girl?
Hello doctor,
I will narrate a story about my marriage and another girl in my life. I have been married to my wife for the last two years and have no children. It was a long-distance relationship; we married after four years of knowing each other. I had several broken relationships before her, and I felt an emotional emptiness. During the four years, I spent with my wife, I was trying to forget the pain associated with my breakup. I developed a love for my wife not because of true love but because I was not getting anyone then. I was helping her financially during those years. Finally, I married at 33 when I was getting older. I was not 100 % into marriage but 70 % interested then. I thought everything would be fine with time. My wife also had a love affair before marriage. She disclosed a little bit about it before marriage. After marriage, she said she was seriously in a relationship and still has not forgotten her ex. She sometimes says her ex was better than me, she would have lived happily if married to her ex. I know she still has a soft corner for her ex. She told me she was not interested in marriage and married me because of my financial help to her. We currently live at my parent's house in town. It is not that both of us do not care or love each other. It feels like the love has evaporated between two souls, and us staying together just for the sake of marriage. I sometimes feel the reason both of us got married was different. My wife complains I am not doing anything to make her feel special. I think, what can I do if I do not feel love and affection for her naturally myself? The problem in our married life has been there since last many months. I am currently attracted to another girl who has been working in my office for the last few months. We started having feelings for each other. It is nothing physical relationship but love and friendship. I cannot stop myself from talking or chatting with this girl in my office. My wife knows about it. The girl I love is getting married in the next few weeks, which is an arranged marriage, and she is not completely happy with the marriage but doing it due to family reasons. I am feeling emotionally helpless and not good due to her marriage plan. I think my mind is attracted to other girls because I am unsatisfied with my married life. I do not know what I should do. I am emotionally attached to this girl, and that was probably missing with my wife. Sometimes I keep thinking about continuing this relationship with the girl in my office even after her marriage. Both my wife and the girl are four or five years younger than me. Sometimes I think of divorcing my wife and marrying this girl from my office. I know it is not easy, and our relationship is not so bad that it requires a divorce. At the same time, it neither makes us happy. Please suggest what I should do.
03 Jan 2024 - 1 min read
How to get rid of depression, stress, and lack of confidence?
Hello doctor,
I am 34 years female. I am suffering from a lack of confidence and have severe mental issues. As a result, I feel stressed and depressed.
Kindly help.
13 Dec 2023 - 1 min read
How to fix the problem of lack of concentration in teenagers?
Hi doctor,
I am 19 years old. I have significantly less concentration, and it is hurting me. Whenever I sit to study, I get distracted easily, and the foremost thing is that whenever I go to study, some thoughts disturb me as I think about past harmful incidents and friends. It creates anxiety in me like they all will come again in the future. I am overthinking. I also lack confidence, but I crack it every time when I study. So I concentrate on studying and want to forget all about past stuff and only study and study, so how can I do this at home? How can I concentrate on my study? Please help me.
13 Dec 2023 - 1 min read
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