HomeAnswersPsychiatryadjustment disorderI am struggling with depression due to family issues. Please help me overcome it.

I am very much worried and get angry for small things. Please help.

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Published At December 31, 2016
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Patient's Query

Hello doctor,

My age is 23 and my husband is 29. I am having a 1 year old baby. After my delivery, I had some problems in my family created by my mother-in-law. At that time my husband left his job and so, there was some distance between us. So, I felt very bad and I used to get anger for small things and fought with my mom for silly things. After 4 months, my hubby got a job in a new location. When my baby was 5 months old, my husband asked me to live with my in-laws. I was not willing to go there because of my mother-in-law, so we fought. But, later I agreed to stay with her. But, I faced torture and my mother-in-law scold me for everything. She did not take care of my child and she insults me every day. So, my husband decided to take me and my baby along with him to a new place. My mother-in-law fought very much, but my husband supported me in that situation. Then, I went along with my husband to the new place and got settled there. I was happy and I thought everything was good. I used to get angry for small things and later, I pardon him. One day, we went for shopping and on the way back to home, we met with a small accident. I thought a car hit my baby and shouted on the road. Also, I missed my husband's wallet. That incident affected me very much and after that I am not willing to go anywhere. In the meantime, my mother had a problem. She had nipple discharge and so, doctors asked to check for cancer. I was very much worried about that. I cannot able to sleep at night. After so many tests, doctors told that was not a cancer, but duct problem and have to remove that. Then, I had that tension also about my mom's surgery. All these things again made me very depressed. Now, my behavior is not good and I can feel that. Even, I get angry with small things to my husband. I am always thinking about something, mostly my mother-in-law's fight and I am scared of small things. I broke my husband's mobile and feel guilty for that. I do not know what to do. Also, My husband losing control sometimes and in stress. Because of his mom and dad, we are facing this trouble. I cannot share these things with anyone. My friends are thinking that I am leading a happy life. I do not know how to come out of this. I visited a psychiatrist and he said that I have mild depression. But, I do not think so. Please help us.

Hi,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

There seem to be some adjustment problems in your family. Everyone faces similar problems not only in marital life, but also in new situations. That does not mean the end of life. It only means that you have to develop better coping skills to adjust to the new situation. We cannot change the people around us. But, it is possible for us to negotiate in tough situations. As long as your husband is understanding you, you need not worry about anything in life. Thinking about the past only brings bad memories and as a result a depressed mood. Never worry about what has happened. You cannot change it. Plan for your future and lead a happy life with your family. After all, life is much more than all these. Start investing yourself in a new hobby and make yourself busy. Focus on physical fitness and go for a regular walk. You will get out of this slowly. Thank you.

Patient's Query

Thank you doctor,

I can understand. But, nowadays I am not interested in anything, even in religious beliefs. The relationship between me and my husband is getting weak. Every weekend there is a fight between us. I feel like I do not have any relaxation and filled up with sadness alone.

Hi,

Welcome back to icliniq.com.

You seem to be preoccupied about your problems, which is affecting your day-to-day life. You seem to be having depressive symptoms as well. I suggest tablet Zosert 50 mg (Sertraline) twice daily along with tablet Lonazep 0.5 mg (Clonazepam) for a period of two weeks to alleviate your depressive symptoms. Consult your specialist doctor, discuss with him or her and take the medicine with consent. Your thinking will slowly improve with these medications. Also, you have to resume your family responsibilities soon. A woman is the most important member in the family. The wellness of your family is determined by you. Hence, it is important for you to recover from depression. I would like to review after a period of two weeks to know your improvement and also for a session with your husband. Thank you.

Same symptoms don't mean you have the same problem. Consult a doctor now!

Dr. Padmapriya Chandran
Dr. Padmapriya Chandran

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