Why do I get so intimidated by others?

Q. I get intimidated by others, forget words, and start stammering. Why?

Answered by
Dr. Parth N. Nagda
and medically reviewed by Dr. Sneha Kannan
This is a premium question & answer published on Aug 04, 2020 and last reviewed on: May 08, 2021

Hi doctor,

I am a 38-year-old male. I am married and I have a child. I have difficulty in sleeping at night. But I always feel sleepy. I forget things easily. I have low concentration and I am lethargic. I have confusion to take a decision. I have low self-esteem with low confidence. I feel like no one likes me. I am afraid to speak in front of others. I have shivering and sometimes stammering of words. I have sudden thoughts of death of myself and other family members. I suffer from PE. I am emotionally weak. I have tears from my eyes and I feel to have a cry after hearing anything emotional.



Welcome to icliniq.com.

Your symptoms are typically seen in major depressive disorder. It is common to have it in 1 in 4 males and 1 in 8 females. It occurs due to reduced levels of certain neurotransmitters such as serotonin in the body. It reduces the stress-handling capacity of the brain. Medicines help in correcting this chemical imbalance. It can be taken for three or four months and then it can be stopped. It takes around a week to show its effects. Normally, SSRI (selective serotonin reuptake inhibitor) or TCA (tricyclic antidepressants) are given for your problem.

You can take either Escitalopram 10 mg once at night after food or Amitriptyline 50 mg once at night after food for resolving the issue. For sleeping, you can take Melatonin 5 or 10 mg at night. Try to follow sleep hygiene. Maintain a good temperature in your room. Do not use a laptop or watching television or phone one hour before going to bed.

Avoid caffeine, alcohol, or tobacco two hours before sleeping, and avoid doing exercise three hours before sleeping. Take warm milk at bedtime. Go to bed when you feel sleepy and avoid doing other activities. Use your bed only for sleeping or sex. If you do not get sleep, do not toss and turn. Get up and go to another room. Have a walk for ten to fifteen minutes. Then come and lie down back. Try to do deep breathing exercises and progressive muscle relaxation techniques such as yoga or meditation. It helps a lot.


Thank you doctor,

Why do I feel low in front of others? I become nervous in front of others. I forget words and I start stammering. I feel unwanted. When I hear any emotional news, I feel to have a cry or my eyes starts to have tears. Do medications hamper my driving? Will it become habitual?



Welcome back to icliniq.com.

Your symptoms are seen in depression. It causes low confidence. You also have social anxiety. In depression, there is an inability to process emotions properly and so you have tears. Taking medications will not become an addiction. Once your chemical imbalance is corrected, these medicines can be tapered off and stopped. Medicines help to reduce your excessive thoughts and it helps to have natural sleep.

Was this answer helpful?


Same symptoms doesn’t mean you have the same problem. Consult a doctor now!

Related Questions:
I have bipolar 2, OCD and social anxiety disorder. What is the treatment?

More importantly, have you received any psychological therapy like CBT along with your medication ...   Read full

Are there any antidepressants to combat with Adderall for major depressive disorder?

Hi doctor, I am currently on Adderall 30 mg twice a day for narcolepsy with cataplexy and Lexapro 20 mg for resistant major depressive disorder ...   Read full

Postpartum Depression

History of bipolar disorder ... Family history of depression or other psychological disorders ...   Read full

Also Read Answers From:

ideaComprehensive Medical Second Opinion.Submit your Case

Also Read

PCOS and Liver Problems
The hormonal imbalances in polycystic ovary syndrome could cause liver diseases. Read the article to know the relationship between these medical conditions.  Read more»
Inferior Alveolar Nerve Lateralization Technique
The inferior alveolar nerve lateralization technique is a surgical lateralization technique to reposition the nerve. Read the article to know more about this.  Read more»
COVID-19 and Ebola: Similarities and Differences
This article gives a comparison and broader overview of the outbreak of the two deadliest diseases that showed a greater incidence over the last two decades.  Read more»

Ask your health query to a doctor online?

Ask a Psychiatrist Now

* guaranteed answer within 4 hours.

Disclaimer: No content published on this website is intended to be a substitute for professional medical diagnosis, advice or treatment by a trained physician. Seek advice from your physician or other qualified healthcare providers with questions you may have regarding your symptoms and medical condition for a complete medical diagnosis. Do not delay or disregard seeking professional medical advice because of something you have read on this website. Read our Editorial Process to know how we create content for health articles and queries.