I often end up saying things which I do not mean to. How do I avoid this?

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I understand how you feel about it. Firstly, you should focus on changing how you react. So, on those lines, firstly, my advice to you is to keep a book to pen down your thoughts daily, especially when you say something you regret. Make three columns with. Your reaction. For example, if you said something in anger, make a note of it. Your thoughts at that time. For example, you thought he was not looking at you. Your feelings, then. For example, you were hurt. Keep entering your thoughts this way and read them later. You will slowly be aware of the cycle. Next, you will have to slowly change your thoughts from negative to positive. Writing down daily and becoming more aware of the thoughts will help you change them, and eventually, you will change the way you react and will not regret what you said. Also, do some deep breathing exercises daily, especially in the mornings and afternoons, for a few minutes. It will help you react calmly to things. Do some form of exercise daily. I hope I was able to help you start with the process. Thank you.

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It is not just about penning it down. Write in these three columns and go through them. Also, try to follow the other things that I suggested. With the above method, you will be able to consciously change your thoughts from negative to positive. It is like cognitive behavior therapy, which psychiatrists and psychologists use with some patients. It will help you control your thoughts and, thus, your actions better.

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Welcome back to icliniq.com. I am doing good. Thank you. It is not about changing into a different person. We just improvise on ourselves for our own betterment. It is primarily for us that we make small changes to our healthy state of mind. We cannot control or predict people, but we can control the way we react, as that impacts us. It holds good when you are around anybody from your past, present, or future.