Dr. Ruhi Satija
Psychiatry
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Hello doctor,
I am curious about why we go back to ex relation again and again even after two to three years of breakup and more than a year of total detachment? I know that relation did not work for me, and maybe I had nothing more to give to or get from that relation. I do not want to get back in that again and all the way I blocked myself.
But still kind of thoughts follow me again and again, and I feel I cannot grow because of that, or maybe that is not the reason, but still, I think about and feel sad and old why I am feeling like still moving around old-time and searching though I do not want to get back that time. I know everything, and everyone has changed with time. Please advice.
Hello,
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There are two possible reasons,
1. Familiarity mind always tends to cling to familiar things which makes it comfortable. Fear of unknown makes the mind choose what is known, even if it is wrong.
2. Lack of a better opportunity, maybe you have not found someone better as of now, so because you crave the belongingness, it is like something is better than nothing.
Have patience, think it through. If there is something, you can work on and mend the relationship, it is good, if there is no scope, keep yourself busy and occupied. Give your mind something better to think.
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