Q. I would like to avoid conflicts with my fiance. Please help.

Answered by
Dr. Suresh Kumar G D
and medically reviewed by iCliniq medical review team.
Published on Oct 14, 2019

Hello doctor,

I am a 28-year-old woman staying with my fiance in a live-in relationship. He is practical, and every parent would love to have him as a son. He is the one I can go to for the suggestion because I feel he will give me a better solution and he is perfect.

He has a lot of friends where ever he goes, and I have a few. I feel lonely when he is not around me. So, we are getting married soon, and he is having his bachelor party, whereas I will not be having it as I hardly have any good friends. I am depressed as I know that in those days, I will be lonely again and that fear is creating a problem in our relationship. Thus we fight too. I do not know what to do. Please help.

Dr. Suresh Kumar G D

Child Health Paediatrics Psychiatry
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Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

It is common to see one partner being outgoing and having lots of friends while the other has a limited social circle. The best way to minimize conflicts in a relationship is to be open and talk regularly to prevent the development of any deep-seated resentments. Have a honest discussion with your fiance about how you feel. Talk when both of you are calm, avoid discussing these during heated arguments as it will not be helpful.

It is important to give some space, even in close relationships. Both of you will find it beneficial to spend time with family and friends regularly. Try to gradually develop your friendship circle so that you do not feel lonely. It may take some time and effort, but can be managed eventually. Utilize opportunities to attend social events, birthday parties, weddings, etc., to expand your social network.

Develop some interesting hobbies to keep you occupied. Even reading books will be helpful. If you prefer the company of animals, try getting a pet dog or cat. If problems persist in your relationship, you can seek counseling.

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