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I am finding it difficult to have intercourse. Why?

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Patient's Query

Hello doctor,

I recently got married and I knew my partner for long before marriage. My query is I am finding it hard to have intercourse. I am very active while doing foreplay, but when I am about to insert somehow I end up ejaculating outside. We as a couple are planning for pregnancy at the earliest. Please guide us. Thank you.

Answered by Dr. Saraswat Kumarshri Shriniwas

Education:

MBBS

Professional Bio:

Dr. Saraswat Kumarshri Shriniwas is a Psychiatrist with 19 years' expertise in Psychotherapy, Sexology, Counselling, and Sleep Medicine. He holds an MBBS from Maharashtra University of Health Sciences (2004) and his D.P.M from the College of Physicians & Surgeons of Mumbai (2008). Dr. Shriniwas specializes in diagnosing, preventing, and treating mental disorders, assessing patients for comprehensive care at Mind Care Peace Centre, Jalna, Maharashtra.

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Hello,

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As per your history, you seem to be suffering from erectile dysfunction (difficulty in sustaining erection) after marriage. The commonest cause of erectile dysfunction after marriage is performance anxiety. If you are worried about erection and your performance during sexual intercourse, it could cause problems with erection. To overcome this, you can try the following techniques.

  1. Remember that you are having sexual intercourse for mutual pleasure and relaxation. And not as a duty or ordeal where you are supposed to perform. Sexual intercourse in a relaxed state of mind will help in getting and sustaining erection.
  2. Do deep breathing for a few minutes before intercourse. It will also help you relax.
  3. Take one tablet of Forzest (Tadalafil) 20 mg and half tablet of Rivotril (Clonazepam) 0.5 mg one hour before sexual activity.

You can take these tablets on alternate days if needed as the effect of these medicines will last for 2 days. If you are taking any other medicine for blood pressure or cardiac condition, ask your doctor if it is fine to take these medicines along with the other medicines.

You will not need these medicines for more than 15 to 20 days because you will develop confidence when you have sex successfully for a few times. As you are recently married, do not worry about pregnancy so soon. You will have plenty of time and opportunity for planning a baby. This added pressure of getting pregnant could also adversely affect your erection.

The Probable causes

Probable diagnosis

Erectile dysfunction.

Treatment plan

1. Relaxation techniques. 2. Tablet Forzest and Rivotril.
Medically reviewed by Dr. Sneha Kannan
Published At March 10, 2016
Reviewed At March 15, 2024

Education:

MBBS

Professional Bio:

Dr. Saraswat Kumarshri Shriniwas is a Psychiatrist with 19 years' expertise in Psychotherapy, Sexology, Counselling, and Sleep Medicine. He holds an MBBS from Maharashtra University of Health Sciences (2004) and his D.P.M from the College of Physicians & Surgeons of Mumbai (2008). Dr. Shriniwas specializes in diagnosing, preventing, and treating mental disorders, assessing patients for comprehensive care at Mind Care Peace Centre, Jalna, Maharashtra.

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Education:

BDS

Professional Bio:

Dr. Sneha Kannan is a skilled Dental Surgeon with expertise in providing general dental care, including scaling, fillings, and preventive treatments. She does oral surgery procedures such as extractions and minor surgical interventions. She does procedures in restorative dentistry, including crowns, bridges, and dentures. She is an expert in doing endodontic treatments such as root canal therapy. She is well-versed in doing procedures in cosmetic dentistry, including teeth whitening and smile correction. She can provide pediatric dental care for children’s oral health and preventive treatments. She promotes oral hygiene awareness and preventive dental practices.  

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Education:

MBBS

Professional Bio:

Dr. Saraswat Kumarshri Shriniwas is a Psychiatrist with 19 years' expertise in Psychotherapy, Sexology, Counselling, and Sleep Medicine. He holds an MBBS from Maharashtra University of Health Sciences (2004) and his D.P.M from the College of Physicians & Surgeons of Mumbai (2008). Dr. Shriniwas specializes in diagnosing, preventing, and treating mental disorders, assessing patients for comprehensive care at Mind Care Peace Centre, Jalna, Maharashtra.

This doctor is not available for online consultations on the platform anymore.

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