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Stepwise Approach to Overcome Poor Sexual Life

Published on Jan 30, 2017 and last reviewed on Jan 31, 2022   -  4 min read


Most people do not seek help when faced with a sexual problem, putting their married life under stress. This article explains how most sexual problems are temporary and situational and can be solved merely by counseling.

Stepwise Approach to Overcome Poor Sexual Life


The brain is a larger sex organ than the penis or vagina. Any sexual act should culminate in the satisfaction of both the partners to be successful. The way of having intercourse is more important than the physical appearance of your organs to your partner. Many marriages are under stress due to the need for sexual counseling. Social inhibition to seek medical advice on issues like premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction may lead to poor sexual quality of life.

What Are Some Reasons for Poor Sexual Life?

Sexual health contributes to the quality of life. Inability to have satisfaction in the sexual life can take a toll on the couple’s unity and mental health. It leads to relationship issues. Sexual dysfunction can occur in an otherwise healthy person or can be secondary to an existing medical or psychological condition.

What Are the Common Sexual Problems Faced By Men and Women?

Both men and women can have sexual dysfunction. Most people do not seek medical help for their problems in sexual life. Following are common sexual problems encountered by women and men;

In Men -

In Women -

Sex Addiction -

While the above-mentioned problems are a lack of normal sexual reactions to the sexual response cycle in sex addiction, the person is too much into sex. This, too, can be risky. It is accepted as a mental health condition by the World Health Organization (WHO). If you are losing people or other aspects of your life, work, relationships, etc., due to your increased want of sex and related activities, then definitely it is addiction.

Medical Conditions -

In spite of good sexual performance, erections, ejaculation, libido, and orgasm, still, some people find it difficult to perform sex due to the presence of systemic health ailments, conditions, medication side effects, and problems pertaining to genitals, such as;

How to Handle Sexual Problems?

For men having early or premature ejaculation, a wide range of treatments is available. First, one should give importance to partner satisfaction. Foreplay is very important in sex. Considering sex as a horse-riding game is the biggest mistake. Directly inserting a penis and performing sex in a minute is bound to leave the female partner dissatisfied. So, start your sexual activity with a minimum of 20 minutes of foreplay, fondling, caressing, and stimulating your female partner till she gets the orgasm. Then, you can have intercourse, and even if you have premature ejaculation now, it will not bother you much.

The next part is treating premature ejaculation and increasing intravaginal latency time. There are physical and medical ways to control premature ejaculation.

If all these measures are not up to your satisfaction, then medication can be given like Dapoxetine before sexual activity to delay orgasm. The stepwise approach in this manner helps most of the patients. So, stop worrying about the size or appearance of your organs.

Apart from these measures, if you still have unsolved problems or other sexual and mental conditions, you must seek medical help. The following therapies can help with your sexual problems;

General Tips for Healthy Sexual Life

  1. Balance stress levels. Excessive stress can also cause sexual dysfunction (troubled orgasms and erections). Practice mindful activities like yoga, Tai chi, meditation, guided imagery, breathing exercises, etc.

  2. Exercise regularly. 30 minutes of aerobics a day can help improve your libido. It also boosts sexual performance, especially in obese males. Thirty minutes of walking a day reduces the risk of erectile dysfunction by 41 %, according to a Harvard study.

  3. Eat nutritious foods such as fruits, vegetables, fish, eggs, lentils, etc., and limit intake of red meat, processed meat, and refined grains.

  4. Limit alcohol intake and stop smoking. These harmful habits do no good to your sexual life and general health; instead, it affects your sexual performance and also causes impotence.

  5. If you are on some medications like antidepressants and experiencing poor sexual experiences as a side effect, reach your consulting physician and discuss alternative medications or dosage modifications.

  6. If you are obese, try reducing your weight to bring it to a healthy range. Men with a smaller waistline (32 inches) are less likely to suffer from erectile dysfunction compared to men with a larger waistline.

  7. Talk to your partner. Open up yourselves about the difficulties you face with your partner, or ask your partner if they are satisfied with you and work on it. Find ways together.

  8. If you have high blood pressure, high cholesterol levels, and high blood sugar, control your levels and bring them within a healthy range with medical treatment. These, too, increase the risk of erectile dysfunction.

  9. Practice Kegel exercises twice daily to strengthen your abdominal floor muscles. Consult a physiotherapist and learn about it.

  10. If you have any medical conditions pertaining to genitals, do not hesitate to seek professional care.


Sex is indeed a personal thing but issues revolving around sexual health necessitating medical care are not personal once it starts affecting other areas of your life such as your relationships, mental health, and peace, happiness, etc. You do not have to give a second thought to seeking professional help for any of your sexual problems. You are just a click away.

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